White Woman Who Sued Sperm Bank Over Black Baby Says It’s Not About Race

We can choose to focus on what is beautiful and fun. And sometimes inequality looms all over the space you are living in. For some people, this is the situation of their whole life. Do not jump to the conclusion that these people do not choose to focus on what is beautiful and fun. I have appreciated many works of art that communicate “tragedies.” I do not know what adjective I should use to describe these tragedies. They let me see how complex human beings are and that their sufferings are not necessarily the result of their deficiency in any term.

This semester I am shadowing a course on inequality. I want to work with my imagination of  how to address inequality. I imagine that if I were in a position to teach a course on inequality, the materials of the course would be artistic works rather than sociological writings. I do not think I would be able to “explain” these works very well. They are simply what I appreciate, and I hope that they would speak to some spectators.

When a teacher deals with sociology, with a collection of social science writings, she must become a work of art that embodies equality. Luckily I see such a teacher. It is a teacher who tries her best to remind her students that: “I am American, female, and white, as labeled by the society,” and all what I see is a kind person.

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“An Ohio woman who sued a sperm bank after it mixed up donors and gave her sperm from an African-American man instead of the white one she and her partner selected said Wednesday that the family is simply trying to get compensation to deal with a situation they weren’t prepared to handle.

Jennifer Cramblett, 36, made headlines this week after she filed a lawsuit against the Chicago-area Midwest Sperm Bank for wrongful birth and breach of warranty. Cramblett told The Huffington Post in a phone interview that she and her partner, Amanda Zinkon, wanted their child to bear some resemblance to them — particularly Zinkon, who would not be carrying the baby. After hours spent poring over sperm donor profiles, they found a donor with blond hair and blue eyes who looked like he shared heritage with Zinkon. But they didn’t get the sperm they ordered.

Cramblett, who spoke with her lawyer present, said that while it’s true she and Zinkon didn’t plan on a mixed-race child, “I would never, ever take that away.”

“We love her — she’s dream come true,” Cramblett said of her 2-year-old daughter, Payton. “For people to think I don’t want this child because of her skin tone is just not the case. It angers me that people would even think I don’t want my child.”

But because Payton isn’t completely white, Cramblett said the family will have to move away from their current home in Uniontown, Ohio — a place she described as white, conservative and too racially intolerant.

“This isn’t LA or New York. We’re not on the coasts. We’re in farm country,” Cramblett said. “That raises my concerns [for Payton.] Being a lesbian growing up in a small town, I went through a lot of things that were hard on me. I don’t want her to have to go through that.”

Cramblett said a friend has spoken with her about his experience as a black child who was adopted by two white parents. Her friend felt “out of place” in his all-white community and “at 9 years old, he was praying to be white just so he could fit in.” She is worried Payton will have a similar experience if the family doesn’t move. “It sucks,” she said.

Cramblett listed several other issues the family has encountered because Payton is half black. “I want her to feel very connected to all parts that that make up who she is. I’m not able to give her that part of heritage, and neither is anyone from her family,” she said, adding that some of her extended family is racially insensitive. Cramblett also said it’s been difficult to figure out how to get her daughter’s hair cut, and she has to drive far from where she lives and to an all-black neighborhood just so Payton can have her hair done properly.

Though Cramblett said no one has been particularly aggressive toward their blended family, even well-meaning comments about Payton’s appearance have led to uncomfortable situations. She is particularly wary of situations where people assume Payton is adopted, or start conversations about her background that Cramblett and Zinkon have not yet discussed with their young daughter.”

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